By Debbie Fischer, AFA Journal editorial assistant
May 2011 – Editor’s note: Debbie was once asked to share some motherly wisdom with a family friend’s daughter as she turned 13. It’s still pretty good counsel for all of us.
1. Life is not meant to revolve around me!
2. Don’t expect your friends or family to be perfect. They are sinners just as you are and sometimes they’re going to hurt you.
3. God will never hurt you or abandon you. When it feels like He has, it is because you have turned from Him. Just turn around.
4. Forgiveness is an act of the will and the path to freedom and peace. Make it a habit.
5. A very wise man once told me that “God’s men (and women) bounce.” So, when you are knocked down, get up and purpose to keep going by doing the right thing.
6. Do not be afraid of hardship. Put your hand in God’s hand and let Him lead you through trials. He uses hardship in our lives to perfect us into His character. He loves us too much to leave us in our imperfect state!
7. Sometimes our difficulties are simply a result of our own sin or bad choices. Don’t blame God. Take responsibility, confess any sin or blame, and keep moving forward with His guidance.
8. “There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” This kind of friend is rare. Choose your friends wisely and cautiously. Some people look great on the outside, but when you get to know them, they are not the kind of friends you need. Love them but be cautious in opening yourself up to them. The Bible says: “Jesus entrusted himself to no man because He knew what was in the heart of man” (John 2:24).
9. Don’t focus on outward appearance. When you begin to bring others into your love, they forget all about the outward appearance.
10. Laughter is soothing to the soul. Laugh with your family! The memories are priceless and will bless your entire life.
11. Stay close to your brother and sister. Forgive their faults against you immediately. God has given you these specific siblings for your good and theirs. If you maintain a close relationship with them you will be blessed for your entire life.
12. Begin now to make it a habit to be in the Word daily, even if it is just a verse. You will be amazed how God uses the Holy Spirit to remind you of His guidance when facing challenges during your daily routine.
13. Pray, pray, pray! God is your Father. Just as your parents want to hear your thoughts and concerns, so does your Heavenly Father. He wants you to walk with Him, your hand in His. He wants to hold you in His lap while you share, while you cry, while you laugh. Learn to tell Him everything! Simply talk to Him quietly throughout the day. That not only blesses you but it blesses Him.
